How to trust your psychic intuition!
(or how I got there anyway...!)
Big hearts make great psychics
So, I definitely wasn't always this aware of being psychic! The only spirit I used to be sure about was Vodka! I definitely wan't brought up with any awareness of spirituality. So many people have such huge psychic intuition just desperate to be brought out! Pretty sure you are one of them too (exciting!)...
The people who are drawn to have a reading with me are a truly special kind of soul. It is always the ones with huge hearts, the givers, the ones very in tune with the emotions and feelings of others. This is often somewhat hidden psychic intuition!
I used to hear and feel people's thoughts, dreams and more, but I thought I was imagining it - there are people who never feel in to the emotions of others, and will for real tell you that you are crazy! If this is untapped and unprotected you may even show emotions that aren't yours when around others (especially in groups, wild!). This can take some harnessing and learning!
I was always very sociable and friendly but I often wondered why was I alive. I was getting anxiety daily and I looked for faults in myself all the time. This was such a waste of my beautiful psychic energy, I didn't know it was all because I was hiding the biggest part of my soul purpose and massively downplaying my intuition.
But thankfully the more you learn about yourself and your energy, the stronger you get spiritually and the easier everything starts to get! In focusing on this happiness you can then bring more light to others too, yay!
Genuine rest and nourishment...
My psychic awareness really opened up after I was made redundant from a fast paced job and lifestyle that I thought I was suited to but now I look back I was SO depleted! I pretty much had 3 hours sleep a night for over a decade because I was around so many people every day and could never fully relax or recharge. Plus we had nightly work drinks that I went to even if I didn't want to actually go...!
I thought I had everything I could ever dream of, and couldn't explain why I felt so awful about myself, so ill and tired...and so ugly constantly. Tiredness makes you needy ugh and often seeking solace in the worst of decisions - looking for external validation because you don't trust if you are accepted, so gross! Now I know I don't have to be accepted by anyone else and I trust every decision and 100% never waver from my values, because I already accept myself 100%! The more you love yourself the more you are loved by others too, it's a win-win.
We all (especially intuitive psychic people) force ourselves to keep up with how the world is - working longer hours than we can handle to pay bills, or staying up late drinking too much to be more socially acceptable, or even just to feel we have the energy for the connection we need to be human. Redundancy literally felt like the universe was forcing me to stop and actually spend time in my own head and sleep properly!
Dreams and thinking time...
Slowing down (and trying to learn how to sleep properly!) brought major positive change to how I lived. But at first it did not feel so great as it came at a similar time as a huge soul-connection break up with one of my favourite humans, amongst some other major life changes and deaths.
Just after that time I used to have nightly dreams about a man and a dog trying to find me and I could literally feel the dog sitting on my heart everyday just before I woke up and it scared me SO much. I would wake up making a muffled screaming noise weekly.
Dreams tell us so much about what we are missing in our awake life. It scared me because I was sure I would never have a dog so never knew why one was forever hounding me in my sleep time!
Redundancy taught me to appreciate slowing down. No longer distracting myself every time I had a feeling I didn't understand.
Connecting with your real energy...
Soon intuitive knowings started to come in more and more frequently. I didn't think much of them really, just thought my life had a crazy amount of coincidences and signs...and so many times things would happen that I'd already seen in my mind, I was like woaahhh man!
But then I started getting busier and damn - 3 years later I was made redundant again! And I now know it was the universe almost shouting at me that I had let myself get back in to a habit of people pleasing, caffienating and not speaking up for my needs again, nooo!
I had again taken a job where I exhausted myself because I couldn't say 'no' to any request even if it was after my hometime! I didn't know how to have boundaries, to say no, or to ask for help! It was also very similar to at my old work in that people would also use my work area as a venting spot - if you're like me, you absorb SO much of everyone else's emotions and it feels like you could break!
I bottled up all of those feelings without even knowing I was doing it!
Other people who don't take on energy like this would just say 'no' to helping out if they didn't want to or if they didn't have time...they cannot understand that it's almost a physical locking in of energy to anyone who needs help that we have! The words 'I need help myself', 'I can't help you right now' or even 'no' never left my mouth! Now I know it's essential to only say yes to what lights you up, if you're too tired your body is shouting at you to please, please make a change, rest or stop!
My energy was DONE. It's like as soon as you get tired you go back in to a default mode that you've always had because it (wrongly) feels so much easier than keeping up all your new good habits. Psychic people can always see how others need help, and it can feel very alienating when other people don't always see when you need help in return!
I knew things had to change for good after this. Finally, my brain and body were actually ready to start listening to each other! Once you get in tune with yourself for real, the universe sends the people and places you need. It's still up to you to hear the signs and make use of them of course! It is an understatement to say I was helped SO much by the magical people I was sent along the way once I finally started learning about protecting my energy, expressing my feelings little and often, knowing I deserve to be looked after too, manifesting - and believing in 'I don't chase, I attract!'.
Trusting in your soul family
The first aligned person I met on my new journey was my future husband Ben. I had never met anyone so confident in their own being before! He is so independent and strong minded. he totally has a 'can do' attitude. This means he truly encourages me to be me all of the time! His face, humour and kindness are lovely too of course haha, plus he is the most inclusive person and makes everyone feel like a friend! He's just such a pure soul.
He had a little cockapoo puppy called Ken, who has been my actual souldog since we met! The first morning with both of them I realised it was exactly the dream I had been having for over a year, but thankfully in real life I could see their faces haha and it was gorgeous and happy and not at all frightening! Sometimes the unknown can seem scary until it happens! My soul felt like life was finally making sense again. My favourite feeling in life is still Ken's little head sleeping on me, aww, I am totally in love!
Ben is open minded enough not to think I am insane (mostly!), he just refers to my universe chats as 'talking to my imaginary friends again' and asks me to laugh quieter talking to them sometimes hahaha, but the universe has the best sense of humour, I laugh so often! The guides I have also sometimes make fun of me in a nice way, it is genuinely funny!
Feeling energy in yourself...
When Ben proposed, it was with his great grandmothers engagement ring. As soon as I put it on I felt instantly more psychic! I got a message from her that she had found me for him which was very special, aww! A lot of people can get feelings from objects, I didn't even know I had this in me till then. And now it happens all the time, especially if sorting through old items!
So many of us don't realise how strongly we connect with energies of objects, buildings, people...everything! Just hold an old object for a while and clear your brain of thought, wait for the insights to come or see how you feel. It's kind of like how we know if a house is the right one for us to live in, it's all on energy and how you feel in the space and what your eyes enjoy!
This is also true for clearing out your cupboards. Feeling the energy of all of your belongings and trusting instinct on whether to keep it or give it to charity is absolutely strengthening your intuition! Every time you have a good sort out you get closer to your soul purpose! Everything we give to a good cause also is returned to us in a more aligned way as new energy too. Karma is beautifully real!
Friendship goals and tarot cards
My beautiful friend and one of my favourite humans ever, Emma R was the second truly spiritually aligned person I met. She changed my life with her friendship, wisdom, walks and her amazing Yoga classes at The Steel Rooms! She is like a lantern to me, she has healing abilities herself and intuitively knows what will guide other people to success. She one day said, 'I don't know why but I feel you have to do this...' and introduced me to my first tarot reading.
I paid in cash and didn't even say my name at first because I didn't want the reader to know too much about me, haha, the irony! Although I more than definitely knew deep down something major was happening because I couldn't stop shaking for the whole reading. His name was Ian Lawman. I later found out he's very well known but at the time I had no idea!
Anyway, the man is a legend and the reading was amazing! Hearing where my energy was aligned and also where it was not aligned changed the course of my life super fast, my love of doing my tarot readings on friends went crazy after this! Would love to see what another reading with him would say now...when is he back doing those readings, haha!
Sometimes you just need someone else to point out the ways you are in tune and intuitive because you don't know what you're looking for in yourself. It's like if you never notice white cars, then you get a white car and somehow then they're everywhere haha. Your brain knows what to look for and sees them all the time!
Growing your strengths daily
I never thought being psychic was something where your awareness of it could steadily grow over time. I especially didn't think it happened to people from my little town of Brigg, England when they were in their 30s!
I now know I wouldn't have been able to handle this earlier in life, I wasn't anywhere near ready. When mine started I realised I could write pages of information about someone I'd never met, which was wild!
The more time you spend getting to know your self, the quicker your psychic skills grow. You can also use tarot or oracle cards to speed up your psychic development too. Whichever ones you are drawn to will be the ones you have the most success with. For me the traditional Rider Waite Smith ones are so full of information, I love them!
I go between cards, crystals and just channeling depending on the day and what I'm drawn to. You never need to force spirituality, whoever and whatever you are drawn to are what are right for you! You will know just from looking, reading or thinking about it!
In my first reading with Ian he handed me the cards and I thought I was shuffling wrong, which is hilarious...how can anyone shuffle wrong? I can hear in my recording how my confidence was so shockingly low. I didn't even think I could move a deck of cards around right - absolutely mental with hindsight!
Others seeing your light
Around this time another beautiful, magical being called Becky also came in to my life. I have never met someone more like a spiritual battery to me, not only through her movement work at 'Rebecca Cartledge' but through her healing hugs and friendship, her spiritual knowings and her calm, exciting wisdom! I always feel I've been jumpstarted when I have seen her! Trust the universe is bringing people in to your life who make you more psychic just by their nurturing energy and their belief in themselves and you.
At this time I also met the wonderful Laura, of 'Flora Natural Health', who is now also one of my most favourite, gorgeous humans! She not only is fun and intelligent, she is also the best listener in the actual universe and also introduced me to her amazing herbal medicine and the healing powers of plants. This friendship was beyond amazing in itself but on top of this she also gently directed me towards Reiki and Shamanic Healings, which were another major spiritual game changer (another understatement)!
Ben, Emma R, Becky and Laura came to me later in life but they saw my soul in the spiritual way that it had never been seen before. I am forever grateful and full of love. Although I had had wonderful people in my life before this, they were the change that allowed me to finally let my psychic side out in to the real world and not hide it away! You get more of what you focus on, so having people in your life who are natural spiritual cheerleaders and authentic people changes everything about your life path.
Reiki reset and daily changes
Daily small changes make a huge difference to how we feel...my husband and I got a little obsessed with salt baths and acupressure mats! I am not sure I am the best at chill baths though, I use salt baths more to energise me in the morning mostly, full on resets my aura, makes me want to dance getting ready! The more relaxed we are the easier it is to hear our guides and intuition.
I then had my first ever Reiki with a different Emma, Emma B, which made me feel safer than I think my aura had felt in a long time. Before then I didn't realise how fractured my aura and heart had become. I was still carrying the energy of my Nanna around with me and had not processed my grief for her or the many other deaths I had experienced.
Emma B did magical things and caringly restored it with her beautiful and healing ways! This allowed me to become a version of me that had been in waiting for a long time. I saw colours and lights and shadows that seemed like people. On my drive home I felt like I processed years of emotions and the world just seemed lighter and much more colourful afterwards!
Even my husband who claims not to be psychic sees colours when he has a Reiki, I of course book him all sorts of things to try and he is very open minded! He is amazing at all sports and is such a 'boy' haha...and when we got together I never thought we could align in this more relaxed way, but it helps that even sports stars now are getting in to these things too! Even if he naps through a treatment, afterwards I can see how much his aura has changed and it kind of gives him a 'Friday feeling' aura rather than a 'I've been working' aura! Being with someone so open to growing together is key to life getting more interesting and fun as we get older (and definitely wiser ha!).
Human Design and MBTI
I was also introduced to Human Design at this time, also by my lovely soul friend Emma R, and I took it to a whole new level! I'd wake up after a party with another 20 people in my Human Design database, like an absolute madwoman (I have calmed down now with this thank goodness!) I do love it so much though! Look up what you are in Human Design and you may get your answers to a lot of life's questions! In case you're interested I am a 1/3 Projector, please if we meet share yours, haha!
It is very reminiscent of the time I was introduced to Myers Briggs back in the day. Apologies to anyone I accosted on nights out about their MBTI type! It was another gateway to spirituality to me though, understanding myself brought me closer to understanding others! Finally understanding why half the world prioritise tasks and the other half prioritise feelings, and it's just how we are wired! I am an ESFP by the way...and Ben is an ESTP! One of the jokes we have about how I knew he was my person was that he let me personality test him on a night out just before we made our first date, even though he had no idea what I was on about haha! As you do...
Creating brain space...
Leaving Social Media made me so much more psychic literally so fast! I didn't even think I went on it very often, but woah, life changing! Not having the stream of unneccessary information in my head all the time was an insane change! I didn't realise how much brain space it takes up.
All the information we ever take in stays in our brains somewhere, even if we can't remember it! Also doing this made me aware how much I poked my phone for no reason, to check the time or to refresh emails (why!), bizarre habits we develop over time and don't notice! Since I stopped using it much, now when I do use my phone much I notice that for a while afterwards I see waves of blue in front of my eyes afterwards that I never even noticed before, weird. 25 years of staring at a mobile screen I suppose! I trust if I am meant to see or hear someone it will happen naturally!
I have been asked many times why I don't promote myself or use social media. But whilst we are connecting in a less real way we miss the universe putting all of these coincidences in our minds and lives. If you're meant to meet or find someone you will do this without being connected in fleeting 'likes'! They will think of you or vice versa and you will message or meet! Or have a coincidence that bring you together.
Shamanic Healing and Sounds
Shamanic Healing has been another transformative spiritual development! I had one with the beautiful and gifted Jenna Jones and just wow! I have always seen energies but this was a whole new level. I definitely know that aligning your energy in this way connects you to your ancestors, spirits and inner knowings! She also uses her amazing energy along with sound healing to reconnect you with yourself which was perfect for me!
Spiritual music can be any type of sounds that make you feel like the most alive version of yourself! Sometimes I get obsessed with the same few songs on repeat for ages and they get me in the right frame of mind for energy work later, who knows what it's doing to my brain but it always works! I often sing over them too with different words and it clears my feelings out so fast!
It's almost like one song contains spiritual nutrients I need for that day. Any music that has loads of good layers in calms my brain, definitely think I'm a rapper sometimes! Hmm I wonder why Ben got me headphones for my birthday, haha!
I have also had soundbaths in Brigg which have both reset my energy in different ways. Whoever you are drawn to for your healing just know that somehow your auras share information together during it, along with the sounds very exciting stuff! Both beautiful souls - one I have had with Emma B at The Steel Rooms and another with Sophie of 'Soula' at the Gemini Pilates studio!
After my one with Sophie my legs felt like going for a run afterwards which made me laugh, sometimes we don't know where we are storing stuck energy until it's released by someone else! I got to share her beautiful nurturing energy and it translated to more motivation in me, magic!
Put yourself first for once!
Other things that make you more spiritual are just spending time on yourself and believing you are worthy of rest and looking after!
My whole life I felt awkward going for a proper hair appointment, but since seeing the fun and gorgeous Lauren at Palm Studio I feel so much better about myself! The time goes in 5 minutes because we are definitely in some alternate universe when we chat I think haha!
I never felt deserving of any beauty treatments for about 15 years either, but I had a treatment for my wedding in 2024 and thought it would be a one off but Steph at Joy is just too gorgeous and lovely and I still want to book the occasional appointment now because it was so lovely to be still, connect with fun chat and feel good for doing something nice for myself!
I feel like I've had a night out after seeing one of those two haha, love it! As long as you align with who is doing your appointment and feel positively charged by their company it is time where you can actually relax in to yourself and become more 'you'.
How to honour your energy...
Another thing my husband and I both know aligns our spiritual and physical energy is KORE Therapy. Another gorgeous Emma (so many spiritual Emma's in the Brigg region ey!), Emma Jay, of EJB Therapies, has some magical intuitive ways mixed with her science and body knowledge to balance out whatever is happening with your nervous system and restore energy!
I love our chats plus the treatment makes me feel more in tune with my own intuitive nature, it wakes up something in my body each time! I sleep so heavily after it too, like it does something to alert me to my genuine need to rest!
Sometimes energy can feel confusing, like doing a job you used to feel so excited by and can't understand why you are now so tired. You can genuinely feel very fond of your bosses and be so scared to let them down but it can still be right to leave. If it is depleting you day by day then it's letting yourself down by staying.
Only working with others who are in total alignment to you is key! If you take a job that is not suited to you, your energy will often drain away as a sign to change your direction! The same also applies for who you see as clients if you are in a customer facing role or also for who you see socially, it is essential to only be with those who lift you up!
Spontaneous changes...
Spirit guides have a funny way of changing your life plans unexpectedly, even just setting up this website seemed to signal to the universe I was more ready than I thought I was - please excuse any randomness on my website, I am the least technical human, beyond amazed I even made one, I can barely handle texts, haha!
I met the most lovely kind hearted and spiritual people when I did my readings, all who changed how I felt about life. At the same time as this my 'real job' work responsibilities were changed so much I didn't recognise my job role anymore - more signs from the universe!
I was being pushed towards the real authentic soul me with super speed! It was a wrench to leave my lovely work people, but it was 100% the right thing to do. I always want myself and others to feel happy, fulfilled and alive and staying in the wrong place would block energy for me AND for them. Staying over your energetic limits or pushing yourself to do things you really don't want to do is actually blocking you and them up, wild! It's all signs from your guides, trust your nudges!
At times like these I sometimes love to have a reading from one of my 2 trusted psychics (Jenna and Sue!) because it's still very reassuring to me to have someone else I trust giving me information from a neutral place. Like anyone else, I still love hearing extra things I wouldn't have thought to ask for myself!
The one I saw at this decision making time was 'Spellbound Sue', a very talented and caring lady and a gorgeous soul, she must be the fastest tarot reader in town too! We have to be open to receiving insights from others we respect and admire to truly feel the community spirit and care our souls crave!
Belief Code, acupuncture, plants and crystals...
Seeing the amazing Ruth W at 'Weaving Threads' online who did Body?Emotion?Belief Code treatment on me was a major life change...just WOAH, I was blown away by the change in me after this! Skills I had repressed for a lifetime started returning to me and I also started prioritising my own time, possibly for the first time ever, after my 'heart walls' (from past traumatic events) were taken down by her caring and intelligent treatment. Another gorgeous soul to help guide me on my new path! She made me feel like a better version of myself every time and I am so grateful!
I also saw the wonderfully talented Ray of R&Y Acupuncture at this time. She opened up my energy flow again with her energy and wisdom, and with that my love of trying new things and living life came back! She instantly knew it was embedded 'fear' in me. I realised I had unintentionally merged too much with other people's ways that were not aligned with mine and I had been hiding real parts of me without realising!
I am naturally rather ADHD in my brain patterns (super fun, love it!) and also with my needing to be 'on the go' and I had been 'trained' in to keeping still for work (and school/uni!) and it had drained my battery! I had also unintentionally got too 'worky' and stopped doing the activities that brought me genuine life excitement! The more exciting things you do. the ones that you are genuinely drawn to, the more pathways you open up in your mind and body.
I discovered crystals and having loads of indoor plants very late in life too. I actually feel their vibrations and messages now too! Crystals and many plants in your house literally bring the earth to you and this heals you day by day! Even before you fully understand their power they are bringing their guidance to you. Whichever you find the prettiest at any one time says SO much about your current energy!
Who and what brings alignment to us...
Another thing that makes you more spiritual is living in the right enviromnent! This is your surroundings AND the people you surround yourself with! As for people, it is true we become who we surround ourselves with. If you are feeling depleted and not knowing why just ask yourself quickly after speaking with someone if you feel smiley and energised or flat and drained. Of course there are variables here, but in general on average!
It's essential to protect yourself from critical people when you are an intuitive, especially if you are healing yourself, it's too painful to absorb their stress. When you are aligned there isn't anything to judge or criticise, just more things to love!
We absorb love and pure soul auras too, so spending time with genuine soul connections is so super charging, easy and fun! Trust who you have energy for and what it means! Admiring and respecting your soul connections is key! Only take advice from those you admire their life choices - or your own path gets skewed!
Creating a life you are excited to wake up to is also so exciting! My beautiful Emma R sometimes runs vision board workshops at The Steel Rooms that I like to get on, because every time I have done one everything comes true within a few months! I do a few a year now, sometimes picture based, sometimes words based, sometimes both. I love how pretty they are and how they focus my mind towards what I love every time I go past! I also recently started loving Pinterest collages (other apps are available of course!) takes 2-10 mins and shows me what I am looking for on that day, love them, also love how they're so different from one day/week to the next!
Making sure we make time for our visions, our environments and our dream relationships with loved ones is so essential to thrive not survive!
Spiritual alignment!
Doing this work has made me in to who I was always destined to be. You will always feel drawn to anything that is for you, trust your instinct. Sometimes what your soul is craving is just some alone time and rest with your own thoughts, sometimes it's spiritual treatments, sometimes it's activities or groups, and sometimes it's crazy nights out where you dance all night - everything is hugely spiritually aligned and recharging if you are doing it because you want to, not because you feel like you 'should'!
I love that I am meeting so many others this year who prioritise gratitude, care, compliments and love! It really feels like we are in a wave of people starting to trust in their own energetic needs finally!
So many people I have met through doing this work are the most sweet, fun and intuitive people ever. So much smiling and laughing together, aww. Every time I read for another gorgeous soul I love hearing how much more spiritually aligned and psychic they have been feeling, it is SO EXCITING waaa!
Can't wait to hear more amazing updates from everyone I've been lucky enough to meet so far and those I have yet to meet!
Sending SO much love to you and I really can't wait to see you soon! Lots of love, Chloë xx